I don’t know who needs to hear this, but if you’re here, you probably need to hear this: you look like an empty tube of toothpaste.
You know the one I’m talking about, right? The one that’s dangerously close to empty for a week now and yesterday morning you roll it just a liiiiiiitle bit tighter so you can hopefully squeeze out juuuuust enough to successfully rid your mouth of that morning-breath-plus-coffee film, all the while thinking “I’ve gotta remember to get toothpaste on the way home from work tonight because I think it might actually be empty now” and then you pray to the toothpaste gods for just a little more to come out when you’re doing the roll n’ squeeze routine again that evening before bed.
I’m gonna let you in on a secret – I repeat myself in therapy. A lot.
I have four or five or twenty-seven of the same things I find myself saying to clients (and friends and hell, even to myself). Because I work with women who have similar struggles, over time I have developed these little phrases, nuggets, affirmations, challenges, and alternative perspectives that represent some of the core areas where I see my clients get stuck. So, welcome to a blog series – Therapy One-Liners by Karissa. Today’s edition is just four little ANNOYING words: both can be true.
You can’t let go of something you don’t own.
This (^^) is quickly becoming my new mantra in regards to dealing with difficult emotions. So many times, our instinct is to turn away from difficult or painful feelings. We deny them or mask over them because we don’t know what to do with them, or we’re afraid that if we turn towards them and engage them, we might get stuck in them. In my personal and professional life, I’ve found that the best approach to dealing with difficult emotions is actually fairly logical…
I really love that I cuss. Like, it might be in my top-ten-favorite-things-about-myself list. It is not, however, on my husband’s top-ten-things-I-love-about-my-wife list and realizing this caused me to get curious about why I love profanity so much. To the day I die, I will defend my belief that we don’t do anything that isn’t serving us in some way – even when those things cause problems in our life, and my cursing is no exception…
Over last several weeks it’s never been clearer to me that we are all so unique and individual. We are literally going through a 100% universal experience. Everyone knows about coronavirus. You would have to LITERALLY be living underneath a rock to not be affected by it in some way, shape, or form.
And we’re not all struggling in the same ways through the COVID crisis or the clusterfuck that is the year 2020 so far – and that (not struggling in the same way through the same thing) goes way beyond just this year or this giant shared trauma.
However you feel, however you struggle, it’s okay. There’s room for you too. Because a universal event does not equal a universal experience.
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